Dont compare your journey or judge the journey you do not know

Please don’t think I don’t know how hard it is to regain your fitness, because you see my now moments. Here is me 36.5 weeks pregnant and now. Not because it was easy but because it was worth it. Breathing in and breathing out every single day is hard, fighting for your dreams is hard. There is no after glow, even after you get your goal, it’s daily work to maintain. The after glow is the sweat from the daily hard work it never ends. My body right now isn’t luck. It’s hard work. My body is a reflection of my lifestyle a 8 year journey so far. Through one pregnancy loss, another pregnancy, postnatal depression and more. It is not a 30 day program to get fit or flexible. When you look at peoples posts here don’t compare your chapter 1 to their chapter 50 . When you see them doing the things you want to do or having a body you admire, remember it isn’t easy. Remember that they had a starting point too….Where they are now, was not where they began! @ashley.horner has been a huge inspiration to me and her programs.

Struggling in the darkness to find my light

#fridaysforme for @sian_samantha
I don’t have a challenge for another week. I am heading away Sunday for an adventure on Laines last week of school holidays. I am not online as much but always thinking of you all. It reminded me how that even though we don’t see things they are still occurring. With mental health awareness day yesterday I am posting today because it’s often a day too late. We are all so blinded by the externals we don’t see the hurting hearts and struggling souls behind these posts. We don’t see the anxiety attacks, the fights, suicide attempts, the challenges, the abuse, the depression, the pain and suffering we cause by our hateful words we say here & in life. We miss soo much that changes lives… I hope today you’ll all close your eyes and see with your heart. Reach out to those you love tell them you love them. Be a little kinder here online to those you want to judge. Just because they look happy are they? Just cause they have a beautiful body does it mean life is better? They don’t have insecurities? They haven’t been told they aren’t worthy? Just because they are naked, does it mean they are a bad person? Porn? Or self confident? Just because they look like they have the perfect family, relationship, have it all together, rich, happy are they? Just because you view the world this way does it mean it’s the only way? Mental Health Awareness for me is every day. After committing suicide and failing. It made me see the world very differently because no one saw me and some still don’t see me, no one saw my pain, no one even new it happened and when I told them they ask if I was kidding? This is how blinded we are to seeing peoples pain and suffering. We see the masks, the numbers, the clothes or no clothes, the smiles, the photos and videos but we do not see the soul and pain. There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds and visibly breaks. So many hide their scars with I’m fine and see the world in black and white instead of vibrant colors. So let’s show people between frustration and depression is our love and hands to help each other up again.

You are GREATER than any test, any negative self doubting limiting belief, society standard or any number

You are greater than any test or standard even if your thoughts or others tell you otherwise, you must believe it is your greatest power….
Let me repeat that: You are GREATER than any test, any negative self doubting limiting belief, society standard or any number.
It really doesn’t matter the test score, what matters, is how hard you try. This is why…..
The world needs you to be empathetic and kind. A test doesn’t measure that.
We need to love ourselves and love others. A test doesn’t measure that.
Learning should be enjoyed to continue. A test doesn’t measure that.
Because we all need to treat each other with respect. A test doesn’t measure that.
The world needs people filled with confidence. A test doesn’t measure that.
Our lives need us to discover and try new things. A test doesn’t measure that.
A life lived should be daring and adventurous and full of ops a daisy 10,000 ways not to do that but I have learnt a lot experiences that make memories of a life time. A test doesn’t measure that.
A world needs friendship and each of us to be a friend and the love we wish to see in the world. A test doesn’t measure that.
The world needs creativity to change it. A test doesn’t measure that.
Now, listen, I know that when life is standardising us by a test or a society standard that it’s hard to remember that. I get it. I struggle too. We live in a world of grades and tests, numbers and untruths that only damage us by creating unrealistic society standards.
But this world also understands true value.
And that is what I want you to remember as you read those questions and fill in your answers to any test or as you live your life and fill up your memory box.
You are greater than any test or number or standard.
You are valuable and awesome and a gift to this world.
Not because of a test or your lived up to a standard or a number of expectation.
Simply because you are you.

It is out intentions, thoughts and accountability that are everything

It’s never been about anything but us and our accountability to see the truth through the mixed messages of society and our accountability to attach more wisely to what matters or use better what helps us and let go of what doesn’t.
It has never been social media that is the issue, it is out intentions and how we use and treat others on it. We must follow people that inspire us and motive us. Engage with experts or people we can learn from. Create genuine and empowering relationships from it. We have to be the change we wish to see. We must actively stop mindlessly scrolling, complaining, hating and engaging in negativity. The world offline in life and online in life on social media gives us beauty and pain. The greatest lesson we will ever learn is that it is all a gift too.
We are the ones who build our walls and we must hold no doubt we have the capacity to tear them down too. If we are ever going to survive, we are all going to have to stop pointing the finger and become accountable for the chaos we make online and offline in all of life. We have to collect the moments, people and things that inspire us rather than break us and hold them close to us. We must see through our blinkers made of society’s messages and open our hearts. And for those days when the sun doesn’t rise or rises slowly and your days are dark. Please reach into your core and remember the warmth. Remind yourself the light will return again.
We all so often guard ourself from the sadness, not realising that we ourselves are closed off from happiness the world is trying to show or give us. Stay open. It is how the light gets in and the stars and moon shine even in the darkest blackest of nights. Stay open and love harder.