This picture was me at 36.5 weeks and the second picture is today over 7 years work that will continue for my whole life…. it is a lifestyle.
We often discredit someones journey because we only see their highlight reels. We forget all humans have it hard. And we forget a fitness lifestyle is hard if you have a family or not and statistics prove it….We all set out each year with New Years Resolutions and according to a study conducted by the University of Scranton, just 8 percent of people achieve their New Year’s goals, while around 80 percent fail to keep their New Year’s resolutions.
The hardest part about my journey of regaining my fitness with life was the responsibility of owning my own story and happiness along with managing all that challenged me like postnatal depression, life day to day challenges and, while raising another human being in the process. After pregnancy I had the challenge of not just staying fit but getting fit. I had to prove to myself that not only could health and fitness be part of my life with a family, but my family’s as well and all with still the same 24hrs in the day I had before a child.
When we see another’s highlight reel on social media we often use blame as a way to discharge our pain and discomfort, but it only provides the illusion of relief in the short term and causes harm in the long term. As I battled depression and struggled with my challenges of life I tried the blame and resentment game first. I tried to make the grass greener to those that had success and also blame all my circumstances and others around me but it lead me nowhere but darkness and further away from better tomorrows. You see, blame for why things are not the way we want them and resentment for what is, creates a toxic feedback loop of stress in the body and a life time of impact on our health. This is where our true responsibility comes in the way in which we respond.
What I have learnt is nobody has it easy, there is no easy in life and never will be….All people deserve respect and credit for their successes and we must take responsibility for our journey. The odds may not be in our favour but we can create habits and a life that creates a life of suffering well and planting seeds of better tomorrow with the work we do with what we have. In the end there is always someone proving the odds wrong and reminding us that It is not about our age or if our mom or dad have good or bad genetics, our circumstances or anything else. Our bodies are our creation and our health story. They can be molded and shaped with hard work and love from within. But we have to love our bodies and train not because we hate ourselves but because we love ourself and because this is the only life we have.
I used to believe that in order to be successful I had to be like everyone else. But as we all know that won’t get you anywhere. While it’s perfectly acceptable to have role models, it is essential for you to be authentic and true.
Give yourself permission to take control. Realize that you are 100 percent responsible for your current reality.
Stop wasting your precious time worrying about what’s going on around you and instead put all your energy and focus towards creating a better you. Create instead of complaining. Build instead of destroy.
Dare to experiment. Dare to explore.
Your only competition is you!