My experience of sacred clowns
When I put photos of myself out there, I can’t tell you the number of people who are quick to judge. I have also had my photos misappropriated and used by others for their own purposes, which breaks my heart.
In Europe, I can go into a sauna naked with strangers, and we’ll sit and have a conversation like people in any other normal situation. Yet if I post a swimsuit or an underwear photo on social media, suddenly I’m a bad mother, a porn star, a woman of little value and an individual underserving of respect. In the same way, I can be on the beach in a bikini, yet if I wear a short skirt in the street, I’ll be questioned about whether I’m setting a good example as a mother. Less clothing isn’t a crime on the beach and it shouldn’t be on social media, nor does it make anyone suddenly a bad person.
It hurts every time someone puts a label on me when they don’t even know me. How is it that humans can hate so much?
I’ll tell you why: it’s because we all live in fear of what’s different or unfamiliar.
Let’s not project our fears onto others
Why is it that when someone reveals their body, we get defensive or feel the need to criticize them? When someone does something we don’t agree with, why does it hit such a nerve? Why do we sometimes act in ways that are detrimental to our goals and relationships?
The answer to these questions is because deep down these things resonate with an issue that we have about ourselves. You see, nothing external has the ability to challenge or hurt us unless we feel unstable internally.
So let’s stop asking what’s wrong with life and other people, and start asking what we need to change so that these external factors no longer challenge us or have the power to make us act out of fear and hatred. How can you take responsibility for yourself and your life, so that you act from a place of love and acceptance?
Extract from my book coming out Jan 2020 pre order HERE