As I write my book about my life it scares me immensely, because to be real and be shamed for it hurts. The world doesn’t really like peoples truths or people that are different because they often don’t fit the box of society who labels and defines what is right and wrong. Just like many people that have inspired us including but not limited to Oprah Winfrey, Ellen Degeneres, Michael Jordan, Walt Disney, Thomas Edison….We often as people judge someone else’s pain and make it invalid and the person feels further shame; because we don’t listen or hold space, we make it personal and we judge. To tell people of the hurt I have already endured & receive more shame from people who judge me without knowing me, requires more healing and suffering that no one will see but everyone will label.
Society likes to label & people to fit in boxes but this healing process and living ones truth is hard because it does not have a look or a label. Why am I writing this?
It is because I want the world to be a better place for my daughter & I don’t want her heart to break like mine or to be feeling like mine right now, broken & confused. What has really broken me of late is the place I came to heal, the online yoga community is now shaming and judging others for their looks and practice. Yoga on social media like instagram is full of so much non yoga. To write this post is hard because many yogis are amazing humans but I want to voice this to those that do not have a voice and are suffering, like I am at the hands of people who out others either through yoga, skin color, cultures, experiences, clothes, racism, difference of opinions, labels etc.
Sadly this is also happening on social media and social media help platforms ignore those suffering and support the ones with numbers. I have learnt recently that teams of yogis are outing other yogis on social media for not being a certain look and getting accounts blocked from posting when they follow all the guidelines.
These people and I are being bullied via comments, direct messages, stories and posts about us. I have also come to realise that even when you write to social media platforms for help like instagram and facebook they ignore us, like we do not matter unless we are an influencer. Unless we are proven valuable by a number.
What scares me the most about this is that allows for people to be bullied and harassed and nothing to be done, which has caused deaths and depression and suicide. On top of this what really saddens me is this is done by adults who are the examples of our children on how to use social media and be good humans. And us adults are all wondering why the next generation is no longer so mannered or respectful. I have had friends who died of this bullying and shaming that I am and others are currently receiving and it hurts to watch others suffer with instagram, YouTube or facebook not assisting.
Many small businesses are also suffering with income to their family as well as people suffering with mental illness from the bullying from others even though they request help and follow all guidelines on social media they do not get help because I/we do not have a number that says we are worthy enough to be helped and this has to stop.
It has been a week for me I cannot post on my instagram profile and instagram has ignored my 30 helps messages plus messages from friends. I can post on my stories, comment on others and post on my IGTV but not my feed. I hosted two yoga challenges supporting companies who sponsored me and could not promote and meet deadlines for my business because of the bullying that has been supported by instagram and I have let others down.
On top of this I am tired of seeing my friends shamed and being judged and their posts of hurt. I have had many people judge me and tell me I have no value for who I am because of my look. Because of my body that life gave me. We all have a body but apparently it is only ok if we dress right. My body gave me a daughter, my body creates my movement and gives me a life but I can only be a decent human if I dress a certain way…… So many are practicing the look of yoga or the words of love and healing but are judging another for what they wear or do & this is not yoga nor respect or love.
It has come to the point my daughter has seen me cry many times from this and I am so tired of being told / seeing others being told we are not good enough, porn or bad people because society labels us for our outer being. I am so saddened by a yoga community that I came to because I believed they practiced love / compassion but I have been watching them out people from online, challenges, companies dropping people because of a look and they all say they practice yoga non judgment.
Instagram and other platforms say they have strict policies on bullying and say they do not support people bullying and take any request for help seriously. However when it happens and requests are written they let communities of people continue bullying others, ignoring their requests for help. The bullying continues in private messages, in posts, by reporting unfairly peoples accounts when they follow all the guidelines (just because they do not like them getting their accounts blocked). When all they have done wrong is be different and social media platforms take no action of help and ignore their requests for help.
This is not yoga and this is dangerous that social media is ignoring people and letting bullying occur. I will never ever believe it nor support this message of untruth. This is not love, compassion, healing, kindness or respect. This is a deception of yoga and love. It is untruths, it is fear.
Judgement is one of the primary signs of the anxious Ego yoga teaches us that. By bringing awareness to judgement we begin to expose the unconscious negative patterns that constrain us, and which prevent us from expressing, and “embodying” our unfettered souls. – Unknown
If you feel you can easily comment on others, chances are you are also well versed in judging yourself. Feelings of insecurity and unworthiness create the biggest bullies and the saddest souls. In yoga we come into the present moment by yoking movement with conscious breath. We consciously observe and release feelings and fears of the past and future. The internal voice quiets and only is replaced with an inner guru. I hope you all know if someone practices yoga and then is judging this is not yoga. I hope you all know if someone practices yoga and does an advanced postures this is not always yoga if you are not practicing breath and love. I hope you all know that yoga is union, love, compassion, kindness, respect and observation with breath that’s it. I hope all know you are more valuable than a number and social media is needs to better at showing you this. To all who have been hurt and shamed recently I send you love and say you are enough. For all those hurting others I send you love and I hope you find your inner peace and heal so you can stop hurting others. Our heart smiles from within. Within this joy there is no room for judgment. This practice of non-judgment can be taken on and off your yoga mat.